BE HONEST.

Counterintuitive tips for men struggling with intimacy.

IF YOU CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR OTHERS…
THAT’S REJECTING YOURSELF.

When you face conflict in relationships…
You can either stay honest to yourself (and maybe go against the other party)…
Or you can change yourself to match what they (the other party) wants you to be.

In the short term, self-rejection feels better.
In the long term, it kills you.
Because what are you, really, if you just become
whatever your environment wants you to be.

I really want you to understand this illusion, because before it was not clear to me.

BEFORE, I NEVER WANTED TO BE ANGRY. I NEVER WANTED TO DISAGREE WITH SOMEONE, OR SAY ‘NO’ TO ANYTHING THEY WERE ASKING. I WAS ENTIRELY SLAVE TO MY NEED FOR THE APPROVAL OF EVERYONE I MET.

BUT THIS WHOLE STORY IS BASED ON ONE WRONG ASSUMPTION:
HAVING SOMEONE DISAPPROVE OF YOU IS A BAD THING.
IN FACT, HAVING SOMEONE DISAPPROVE OF YOU MIGHT BE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING…
BECAUSE IT MEANS YOU HAVE A SHOT AT BEING YOURSELF.

Allowing yourself to exist honestly, however you are, regardless of what others think of you, is the greatest gift you can give to the world.

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