Being Broken vs Breaking Someone?

Karma hits all of us, at different times in our lives.

Someone loved you but you didn’t have the same feelings. For you, it probably didn’t amount to much. So, you tried but it just didn’t work out. Yes, you felt bad but moved on thinking this was not your fault because you tried. It just wasn't meant to be.

It becomes much more than this when you are the one whose love wasn't reciprocated. The situation then becomes different, right? because it concerns you. Now, the stakes are higher.

Not meant to be - just doesn’t seem enough. All of the millions of feelings inside you demand more. But then you realize nothing will be enough if the love that you feel for someone isn’t reciprocated the same way.

It has been like this for humans since the beginning. The pain or any other emotions that others feel are not given the same consideration unless you go through that yourself.

No matter how much you try, you don’t learn something until you experience it yourself. You can try empathizing with others but that empathy becomes more deepened and sincere when you actually understand what the other person is feeling.

Let’s take an example (it will be morbid)

You have a friend, who had just experienced the death of a very close family member. You try to be there for them, you try to empathize, and you try to manage their grief. All this time, you have no idea how they are really feeling. If, unfortunately, sometime in the future, you lose someone close to you. then you will know their pain. When you will see them afterward, you can understand them on a deeper level, you can understand their grief.

The same is the case with love. You don’t feel it until you feel it and when you do there is no going back. When you get your heart broken, then you understand the pain that you caused when you broke someone’s heart. now, you will understand but there will be nothing you can do to salvage what has already been damaged, you learn to accept the pain/guilt and live with it.

Positive and negative emotions make us who we are and help us in becoming the better version of ourselves. If we accept them, we can become understanding individuals. We have no other choice because no one can run from attachments their whole life.

Get ready to be broken before you commit to others. No one stays forever.

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